Commitment-Phobe: My husband feels alone

28/05/2019 | Reform

My husband tells me church isn’t working for him

What is it like to be married to a church obsessive when it isn’t really your thing? This month, my husband opened up to me.

I have doubts, struggles and … Read More

Commitment-Phobe: My new confidence

29/04/2019 | Reform

I have found new confidence in leading worship

As I have lamented countless times, I do not play an instrument or read music, which is a regular source of anxiety when it comes to worship leading. I have allowed it … Read More

Commitment-Phobe: I speak out

01/04/2019 | Reform

I am learning to speak out and disagree well

Last month I was talking about needing to see more grace, in myself and in others. This month I have had the joy of seeing relationships with fellow Christians radically shift, … Read More

Commitment-Phobe: My silence on abortion

22/02/2019 | Reform

Why do I say nothing when they talk like that?

I am part of many church-related WhatsApp groups for sending and receiving messages. I use these groups to arrange meetings, receive encouragement – scriptures, worship songs etc – or just … Read More

Commitment-Phobe: Break from church

25/01/2019 | Reform

A break from church raises tricky questions

Late last year, I had a work opportunity that took me away from home for two months. It was challenging for both my family and me, but also very rewarding. I relished the … Read More

Commitment-Phobe: Women’s work

27/11/2018 | Reform

Church helpers: where are the men?

A woman’s work is never done. Is that an old-fashioned concept? If so, why is so much work at church assumed to belong to the women? When I first started going to church, I … Read More